Violation


the Basica




  Sharing sexual pleasure delivers an immediate, direct, and intense reward for vulnerability. Rape is not only a violation of another's trust, it is a rejection of one's own capacity for it. In remaining closed to the vulnerability of consensual sexual interaction and refusing to risk having to honor the possible denial of consent, one is shown to be in pursuit of power as a result of a failure to overcome fear. Therefore, rape is a sign of weakness rather than strength.

  The power to commit rape is temporary and limited. To be successful, the act must be carried out under circumstances that bring much more to the situation than the rapist can contribute alone. Its completion offers nothing of any real value to the personhood of the rapist, and so its only reward is a moment of dominance, the thrill and satisfaction of which must then come to be so overblown that it can be hoped to override the truth that it will earn the rapist no respect, create no safe harbor, elevate the offender not at all in any way. While the target of an assault can eventually regain a sense of dignity in both a realization of faultlessness and an understanding of all the factors involved in the situation, including whatever may have been done to try to effect survival, the end result of rape for the rapist is really nothing but debasement and humiliation. To perceive any gain by it, the offender must be delusional.

  In contrast, the power of trust is vast, offering everything the violation of it does not.



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